i got denied a restraining order in sarasota, florida
Unfortunately, you apparently do have to have two incidents of either stalking or violence within the past six months.
This website has good details:
"If the relationship between the abuser and victim does not qualify as domestic, it may be covered through a Restraining Order for Repeat Violence. To qualify, there must have been at least two violent or stalking incidents committed against the petitioner by the respondent within six months of filing. These restraining orders are issued to stop threatening or harmful behavior against the petitioner."
You need to be able to defend yourself from violent attacks. Two ways of doing this would be to make your dwelling secure with window and door bars and bolt locks, and also securing a weapon with which to defend yourself if you are attacked with deadly force. It is your responsibility to comply with all laws regarding this weapon, and remember to keep it hidden from and out of the reach of children.
You might also consider moving across town, having an unlisted phone number, and taking other measures so as not to be easily found by your attacker.
You need to document instances of stalking, if the perpetrator comes to your house, etc. Lock the door and call the police to report a stalking trespasser. Two such instances will qualify for the restraining order.