The executor has the rights given to them under the Will, the estate laws of Virginia and the Court. This usually includes the right to pay for items like you mention for the benefit of the estate. However, the Court handling the probate is the final say on matters affecting the estate, as well as the final place to go if there are issues. Executors generally have broad powers so the Court's will usually not allow the heirs to get involved in every little matter involving the estate. As for information, as an heir you are entitled to information about the estate but again not so as to improperly interfere with the performance of the duties as executor. The executor owes all heirs a fiduciary duty to handle the estate in a reasonable manner and if he does not the Court can be involved.